Easy for me to say but you need to stop counting the days and try to just let go as it will serve no useful purpose and only continue to weigh you down. That doesn’t meant losing hope and it’s just a better way to face the current situation before better times come along.
It’s also good to see your other articles on your daily life and various adventures and look forward to reading more as I find Japan fascinating, even if it is no longer the place it once was.
There are no better days. My son wants nothing to do with me, will not even read messages I send to him.
Once I finish the textbook I am working on, due Wednesday, I will work on posts on my last two hikes. While I derive some pleasure from them, enjoyment is not something I feel anymore. The feeling that overtook me upon the completion of the last hike was melancholy. Not sure I can handle that amount of it again.
While what you say is not wrong, unless in such a situation, one cannot not get the feel for it. In the span of three minutes I went from having weekly dinners with my son, a trip to the zoo and a hike with him to look forward to, to nothing to look forward to. I have been on a bit of a spending spree buying Japanese antiques, arts and craft and their is some pleasant anticipation as I await either the delivery of them or their discovery as I go searching for them, but these are sad substitutes, the pleasure they provide largely evaporates as soon as they enter my abode. Not totally, but mostly.
There is but one thing I want more than to meet my dad again. To hear his voice, to shake his hand. So much I want to share with him and ask him about. But he was taken days after I moved out of what was my home for twenty years. What I want ever more than than that is to see my own son, but he does not wish to see me. Will not even open the messages I send him. There is so much wrapped up and entangled here that I cannot express.
The concept of joint custody is foreign to Japan. Until April 1st this year, one parent gets 100% parental rights and the other zero even between Japanese divorced couples. The mother almost always gets custody.
Ok, so does that change anything w/ your situation? Whether your son wants anything to do w/ you or not is irrelevant; he’s too young to know what he wants or how he feels & even if he’s “forced” to share time w/ you, it gives you an opportunity to make a difference, create memories, change the poison his mother may be dishing
No. Mainly because the divorce predates the new law and because of the arrangement we agreed upon. In the last communication from her, she is also having trouble with him and he does not talk to her either. Another aspect is one that led to divorce, she came to believe that forcing him to do anything, including going to school, is child abuse.
Easy for me to say but you need to stop counting the days and try to just let go as it will serve no useful purpose and only continue to weigh you down. That doesn’t meant losing hope and it’s just a better way to face the current situation before better times come along.
It’s also good to see your other articles on your daily life and various adventures and look forward to reading more as I find Japan fascinating, even if it is no longer the place it once was.
There are no better days. My son wants nothing to do with me, will not even read messages I send to him.
Once I finish the textbook I am working on, due Wednesday, I will work on posts on my last two hikes. While I derive some pleasure from them, enjoyment is not something I feel anymore. The feeling that overtook me upon the completion of the last hike was melancholy. Not sure I can handle that amount of it again.
While what you say is not wrong, unless in such a situation, one cannot not get the feel for it. In the span of three minutes I went from having weekly dinners with my son, a trip to the zoo and a hike with him to look forward to, to nothing to look forward to. I have been on a bit of a spending spree buying Japanese antiques, arts and craft and their is some pleasant anticipation as I await either the delivery of them or their discovery as I go searching for them, but these are sad substitutes, the pleasure they provide largely evaporates as soon as they enter my abode. Not totally, but mostly.
There is but one thing I want more than to meet my dad again. To hear his voice, to shake his hand. So much I want to share with him and ask him about. But he was taken days after I moved out of what was my home for twenty years. What I want ever more than than that is to see my own son, but he does not wish to see me. Will not even open the messages I send him. There is so much wrapped up and entangled here that I cannot express.
Do gaijin have no rights as a parent in Japan? What about American rights to your child?
The concept of joint custody is foreign to Japan. Until April 1st this year, one parent gets 100% parental rights and the other zero even between Japanese divorced couples. The mother almost always gets custody.
April 1st this year is when the new law allowing for dual or shared custody came into effect.
Ok, so does that change anything w/ your situation? Whether your son wants anything to do w/ you or not is irrelevant; he’s too young to know what he wants or how he feels & even if he’s “forced” to share time w/ you, it gives you an opportunity to make a difference, create memories, change the poison his mother may be dishing
No. Mainly because the divorce predates the new law and because of the arrangement we agreed upon. In the last communication from her, she is also having trouble with him and he does not talk to her either. Another aspect is one that led to divorce, she came to believe that forcing him to do anything, including going to school, is child abuse.