There is a whole body of foxlore in Japan the core of which seems to be as foxes being the messengers of the Japanese god of rice, fertility and prosperity, Inari. Other aspects depict them as enchanted beings capable of shapeshifting who enjoy tricking humans, often mercilessly so. In traditional and modern art they are often depicted as enchantedly beautiful women who cast reflections or shadows as foxes, the animal. Having one attaching itself to your “house” was bad luck, unless your family was of the bushi class who considered it an honor and good luck to have Kitsune looking after them. Most Japanese women take being called a Kitsune as a great insult.
I chose it for completely different reasons. I have a connection with Kitsune through my name, one I have long used this as self depreciation humor to get laughs from my classes.
Here are a few depictions of Kitsune from ages past.
かさねグラフィカ「日本玉藻前 屋かんと化して飛去図」 勝川春扇 文化4年 - Cool Art Tokyo
School of Katsushika Hokusai - Nine-Tailed Golden Fox - Japan - Edo period (1615–1868) - The Metropolitan Museum of Art
Japanese Print "Gekko's Essay - Nine Tailed Fox" by Ogata Gekko
KUNISADA II Scene of the kabuki performance, Sangoku yofuden, Tamamonomae transforms herself into Nine-tailed fox, triptych | Japanese Ukiyo-e Prints | Hara Shobo
TL; DR: RFK Jr.'s narcissistic playbook—idealize, devalue, discard—left his wife a broken shell before her "convenient" suicide, and now it's scripting his radio silence on baby Sa’Niya Carter's vaccine death. Accountability? Pfft, that's for peasants; he's too busy virtue-signaling with his MAHA circus while chasing that endless supply of sympathy points.
Oh, Paul's Substack is the unfiltered truth serum this vaccine cartel nightmare needs—calling out RFK Jr.'s HHS as a grift-fest photo op? Spot on. But let's zoom in on Bobby's blank stare at Sa’Niya Carter's tragic post-vax passing: where's the outrage, the presser, the "I'm suing Big Pharma!" war cry we were promised? Crickets, because our boy RFK is knee-deep in his favorite hobby—narcissistic supply harvesting.
You see, when a victim checks out permanently (like his second wife, Mary Richardson Kennedy, who hanged herself in 2012 after years of his "loving" neglect), it’s jackpot for the NPD crowd. Endless pity parties, media martyr monologues, and that delicious drip of "poor me, the grieving hero" adulation. No messy accountability required—just frame her as the "crazyalcoholic" who drove herself off the cliff while he plays the saintly savior who "did everything to help." Classic narc move: cut off her credit cards during divorce (leaving her begging for gas money), parade his side-chick Cheryl Hines as the upgrade, then secretly exhume and relocate her coffin 700 feet from the family plot like she's yesterday's trash—because even in death, who needs a headstone when you've got his ego to eclipse you?
So yeah, expecting RFK to prioritize justice for a Black infant's vaccine death over his spotlight? About as likely as Cassidy returning those "borrowed" testicles.
Like my ex, Kathleen Taylor—that conservative Catholic Trump stan I met right here on your Substack—he'll be too busy preening for the cameras, dropping MAHA platitudes like confetti at a failed MAGA rally. I get Mary's pain on a cellular level: I too was love-bombed into oblivion via DMs (endless flattery, soulmate vibes, the works), only to get devalued, discarded, and gaslit the secondmy cancer diagnosis hit. Turns out, for narcissists like Kathleen, timing is everything—spike the cortisol, torch the sleep, crater the immunity, all to savor that sadistic thrill of watching a "supply source" wither. Deliberate? You bet.
Enjoyment from cruelty? Her love language.
Oh, and get this: in one of her DMs, she casually signaled my upcoming replacement as her shiny new narcissistic supply—none other than "Kitsune the Maskless Crusader," that whiny commenter I can't stand. She actually pleaded with me to "be nicer to him" because "he's not as strong as you."
As if I'm supposed to clutch pearls in jealousy. Please. The thought of Kitsune stepping into her abuse cycle doesn't bother me one bit—I wouldn't wish Kathleen's infidelity (yeah, I clocked that too) on my worst enemy... but if the universe insists on recycling her cruelty, fine, let it land on him.
He's the perfect mark: ex-military, stationed in Japan, fresh off rejection by his Japanese wife, vulnerability dripping like an open wound.
Predator's dream.
Geographic distance? Built-in discard button—no shared social circles, no legal/financial entanglements, no risk of confrontation.
Research on online romance fraud with narcissistic traits (Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 2023; Personality and Individual Differences, 2021) shows predators deliberately filter for overseas men who are lonely/isolated (military, expats, widowers).
Most narcissistic abusers who engage in long-distance, cross-border love-bombing cycles are aware (at some level) that devaluation and discard are inevitable, and many intentionally select the setup because it guarantees an easy exit. Forensic case reviews (FBI IC3 romance scam reports, 2022–2024) show repeat offenders reuse scripts across 5–20 victims, proving premeditation.
Even non-criminal narcissists (not scammers) follow the same NPD cycle (idealize → devalue → discard) because empathy circuits are blunted (fMRI studies, Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, 2020).
Direct evidence from perpetrator admissions in therapy transcripts (Clinical Case Studies, 2022): “I pick Americans online because when I’m done, I just block and they can’t find me.” “I never planned to meet them. The goal was money, then ghost.”
And hey, a 2024 Metropolis Japan analysis of Japanese surveys found 84% of Japanese women viewed infidelity as "healthy" or beneficial to marriages, so Kathleen would be just like a Japanese woman—cheating her way to marital bliss while Kitsune gets ghosted from halfway across the Pacific.
At 70 years old (far older than any other girlfriend I've had), physical aging frustrates narcissistic women like Kathleen, so some pursue cosmetic procedures or younger/novelty men aggressively. Desire crashes without ego-stroking, and they may fake satisfaction to maintain allure, avoiding vulnerability—their focus shifts to tenderness, cuddling, oral over penetrative sex (per Journal of Sexual Medicine, 2023 meta-analysis).
Narcissistic women (clinical NPD or high traits, per DSM-5 criteria; prevalence ~1-6% in older adults per American Journal of Geriatric Psychiatry, 2021) desire admiration and status. Partners must elevate their image—wealthy, attractive, or socially prominent men.
A 2018 study in Personality Disorders found older narcissistic women often target younger or high-status partners for validation, discarding them when praise wanes. Relationships are transactional: They seek "trophies" or enablers, not equals.
See footnote 1 for the full NPD abuse crash course, because knowledge is the antidote to this poison. Paul, keep swinging—your stacks are the mic drop this administration's echo chamber deserves. What's next, RFK tweeting about circumcision risks while infants like Sa’Niya fade into the footnotes?
Footnote 1: Narcissistic Abuse Defined
Narcissistic abuse, which has some characteristics in common with paraphilias, or perversions, such as sexual sadism, pedophilia and necrophilia, is a pervasive form of emotional and psychological manipulation inflicted by individuals with narcissistic personality traits. It can occur online and/or in the real world. It involves tactics such as love-bombing (intense flattery followed by withdrawal), devaluation (qualities once praised are mocked, criticized or dismissed to erode self-worth, often using subtle put downs, backhanded compliments or silent treatments or 'ghosting'), narcissistic discard (abrupt withdrawal or cold detachment inwhich warmth, affection and attention disappear overnight after the narcissistic individual loses interest and 'ghosts' the victim, acting as if they never mattered; the narcissistic individual throws away the person they once idealized, showing how transactional and conditional their attachment truly was) and gaslighting and projection (denying hurtful actions or accusing victims of the very behaviors they're displaying, making victims doubt their reality).
In narcissistic abuse, there are often acts of kindness but these are manipulative and are alternated with abuse.
These cycles create confusion, isolation, and dependency.
A key mechanism is trauma bonding (also termed trauma-coerced attachment), where intermittent abuse is interspersed with affection, forging a powerful emotional attachment that traps victims despite the harm.
This phenomenon was first detailed by Dutton & Painter (1981) in their seminal paper on traumatic bonding in abusive relationships.
The devastating effects on victims of predators like Kathleen include:
That was her objective. There's a strong cognitive sense of injustice but without the affective anger I had earlier. The whole time I was in conflict with you she was telling me daily how much she loved me and "liking" my comments that were critical of you. You are welcome to her. I don't want her. I refused to take her back. Just be warned, when you are dealing with a very severely personality disordered individual the abuse pattern will repeat. Notwithstanding our past conflicts, for which I take this opportunity to apologize, sincerely, I actually do not wish you any harm and she will harm you, guaranteed. She has been grooming you. She is a highly skilled con artist but she believes she is "superior" to her victims and " entitled" to treat them cruelly and in the end you will just be another victim to her.
When, on what subjects were you and I in conflict? Your name does not ring a bell and I have had but little dealings with the woman you name. For me, this is coming out of a clear blue sky above left field.
The kid and Minecraft. I know for sure if Minecraft had been around back, when I was a kid, my mom would have had the perfect incentive for me to complete all sorts of chores. It would have made her "weed craft" that much easier to enact upon me.
Does the Kid play Minecraft alone, or with online friends?
i know how your kid feels to a degree. The days when the internet goes down are painful, that much more if it is power. It shows me how dependent I am on those things when they are missing. And for a moment, I feel gratitude for all that I do have that I tend to take for granted.
I do not play computer games for a reason. I learned how addictive they can be after spending three days straight of Christmas leave at a friend’s house in Yokosuka playing Sim City without a break. Stopped cold turkey. 11 year olds do not have level of will power. Few adults do, it seems.
The preexwife is unable to use as your mother would have as she always caves and gives in to The Kid’s demands. Her pitiful attempts to use it in such a manner as your mother would just create hours long fights that end in her consenting to The Kid’s demands.
I know The Kid has played with friends online, that is how they first learned of it, playing it at a friend’s house. But I do not know if they still are or if they always are or not. All I know of the incessant fights over the game and screen time on the idiot phone.
November 7th? Unfortunately, I have to work. Honey Badger Moving Services is fully booked that day. Perhaps I can help out in other ways. If you do a partial move, I can help another day.
Wasn’t really planning on the big and heavy stuff that day. Most of the day will be spent cleaning and moving drawers over so that the furniture they belong in will easier to handle. How about the 8th and/or the 9th?
Talked with the preexwife today. It will be a drawn out moving process. If you are willing and able, I can wait a while for our times off to align. If not, I’ll have to hire a moving company. Probably take longer for a moving company as I doubt I can get one that is available with less than a month or longer lead time. But, I haven’t looked into it.
I will see what I can do. The 23rd is a holiday. I have work but I will see if I can get out of it. In regard to moving companies, I remember I hired a small truck. The truck included the mover and the driver (same person). I had to ride with him between the two places (one trip). It was fun. We spent the whole drive talking about fish. If I recall, it was cheap and quick to get a truck.
You are definitely well out of it all. !00% you cannot fix or improve the situation at home by remaining there any longer and although it might seem counterintuitive to distance yourself, you actually have a better chance of making a positive difference by doing so. It will of course depend on how much you get to actually see the kids after you move out and the various circumstances but don't make any negative assumptions for now until you see how things play out.
Ahhh, Kitsune.
I got a Japanese lesson today from a 13 yo. He was talking - about Manga? Drawing? Making a "Kitsune" (and he taught me to say it properly).
He told me about the spirit with 10 tails. Kitsune.
Then I heard this song. It's meant to be a Christmas song, but -
Run with the Fox
Into the Wind
Into the Dawn of Tomorrow. . .
https://youtu.be/IUkwXavUhm4?si=jSmWpoRkaeN_D3Rs
Blessings on your move.
There is a whole body of foxlore in Japan the core of which seems to be as foxes being the messengers of the Japanese god of rice, fertility and prosperity, Inari. Other aspects depict them as enchanted beings capable of shapeshifting who enjoy tricking humans, often mercilessly so. In traditional and modern art they are often depicted as enchantedly beautiful women who cast reflections or shadows as foxes, the animal. Having one attaching itself to your “house” was bad luck, unless your family was of the bushi class who considered it an honor and good luck to have Kitsune looking after them. Most Japanese women take being called a Kitsune as a great insult.
I chose it for completely different reasons. I have a connection with Kitsune through my name, one I have long used this as self depreciation humor to get laughs from my classes.
Here are a few depictions of Kitsune from ages past.
https://pin.it/5xEuNi3hu
PICRYL - Public Domain Media Search Engine media
This one has special meaning to me.
https://picryl.com/media/hiroshige-new-years-eve-foxfires-at-the-changing-tree-oji-1857-fcd76d
かさねグラフィカ「日本玉藻前 屋かんと化して飛去図」 勝川春扇 文化4年 - Cool Art Tokyo
School of Katsushika Hokusai - Nine-Tailed Golden Fox - Japan - Edo period (1615–1868) - The Metropolitan Museum of Art
Japanese Print "Gekko's Essay - Nine Tailed Fox" by Ogata Gekko
KUNISADA II Scene of the kabuki performance, Sangoku yofuden, Tamamonomae transforms herself into Nine-tailed fox, triptych | Japanese Ukiyo-e Prints | Hara Shobo
FYI, don’t say you weren’t warned.
TL; DR: RFK Jr.'s narcissistic playbook—idealize, devalue, discard—left his wife a broken shell before her "convenient" suicide, and now it's scripting his radio silence on baby Sa’Niya Carter's vaccine death. Accountability? Pfft, that's for peasants; he's too busy virtue-signaling with his MAHA circus while chasing that endless supply of sympathy points.
Oh, Paul's Substack is the unfiltered truth serum this vaccine cartel nightmare needs—calling out RFK Jr.'s HHS as a grift-fest photo op? Spot on. But let's zoom in on Bobby's blank stare at Sa’Niya Carter's tragic post-vax passing: where's the outrage, the presser, the "I'm suing Big Pharma!" war cry we were promised? Crickets, because our boy RFK is knee-deep in his favorite hobby—narcissistic supply harvesting.
You see, when a victim checks out permanently (like his second wife, Mary Richardson Kennedy, who hanged herself in 2012 after years of his "loving" neglect), it’s jackpot for the NPD crowd. Endless pity parties, media martyr monologues, and that delicious drip of "poor me, the grieving hero" adulation. No messy accountability required—just frame her as the "crazyalcoholic" who drove herself off the cliff while he plays the saintly savior who "did everything to help." Classic narc move: cut off her credit cards during divorce (leaving her begging for gas money), parade his side-chick Cheryl Hines as the upgrade, then secretly exhume and relocate her coffin 700 feet from the family plot like she's yesterday's trash—because even in death, who needs a headstone when you've got his ego to eclipse you?
So yeah, expecting RFK to prioritize justice for a Black infant's vaccine death over his spotlight? About as likely as Cassidy returning those "borrowed" testicles.
Like my ex, Kathleen Taylor—that conservative Catholic Trump stan I met right here on your Substack—he'll be too busy preening for the cameras, dropping MAHA platitudes like confetti at a failed MAGA rally. I get Mary's pain on a cellular level: I too was love-bombed into oblivion via DMs (endless flattery, soulmate vibes, the works), only to get devalued, discarded, and gaslit the secondmy cancer diagnosis hit. Turns out, for narcissists like Kathleen, timing is everything—spike the cortisol, torch the sleep, crater the immunity, all to savor that sadistic thrill of watching a "supply source" wither. Deliberate? You bet.
Enjoyment from cruelty? Her love language.
Oh, and get this: in one of her DMs, she casually signaled my upcoming replacement as her shiny new narcissistic supply—none other than "Kitsune the Maskless Crusader," that whiny commenter I can't stand. She actually pleaded with me to "be nicer to him" because "he's not as strong as you."
As if I'm supposed to clutch pearls in jealousy. Please. The thought of Kitsune stepping into her abuse cycle doesn't bother me one bit—I wouldn't wish Kathleen's infidelity (yeah, I clocked that too) on my worst enemy... but if the universe insists on recycling her cruelty, fine, let it land on him.
He's the perfect mark: ex-military, stationed in Japan, fresh off rejection by his Japanese wife, vulnerability dripping like an open wound.
Predator's dream.
Geographic distance? Built-in discard button—no shared social circles, no legal/financial entanglements, no risk of confrontation.
Research on online romance fraud with narcissistic traits (Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 2023; Personality and Individual Differences, 2021) shows predators deliberately filter for overseas men who are lonely/isolated (military, expats, widowers).
Most narcissistic abusers who engage in long-distance, cross-border love-bombing cycles are aware (at some level) that devaluation and discard are inevitable, and many intentionally select the setup because it guarantees an easy exit. Forensic case reviews (FBI IC3 romance scam reports, 2022–2024) show repeat offenders reuse scripts across 5–20 victims, proving premeditation.
Even non-criminal narcissists (not scammers) follow the same NPD cycle (idealize → devalue → discard) because empathy circuits are blunted (fMRI studies, Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, 2020).
Direct evidence from perpetrator admissions in therapy transcripts (Clinical Case Studies, 2022): “I pick Americans online because when I’m done, I just block and they can’t find me.” “I never planned to meet them. The goal was money, then ghost.”
And hey, a 2024 Metropolis Japan analysis of Japanese surveys found 84% of Japanese women viewed infidelity as "healthy" or beneficial to marriages, so Kathleen would be just like a Japanese woman—cheating her way to marital bliss while Kitsune gets ghosted from halfway across the Pacific.
At 70 years old (far older than any other girlfriend I've had), physical aging frustrates narcissistic women like Kathleen, so some pursue cosmetic procedures or younger/novelty men aggressively. Desire crashes without ego-stroking, and they may fake satisfaction to maintain allure, avoiding vulnerability—their focus shifts to tenderness, cuddling, oral over penetrative sex (per Journal of Sexual Medicine, 2023 meta-analysis).
Narcissistic women (clinical NPD or high traits, per DSM-5 criteria; prevalence ~1-6% in older adults per American Journal of Geriatric Psychiatry, 2021) desire admiration and status. Partners must elevate their image—wealthy, attractive, or socially prominent men.
A 2018 study in Personality Disorders found older narcissistic women often target younger or high-status partners for validation, discarding them when praise wanes. Relationships are transactional: They seek "trophies" or enablers, not equals.
See footnote 1 for the full NPD abuse crash course, because knowledge is the antidote to this poison. Paul, keep swinging—your stacks are the mic drop this administration's echo chamber deserves. What's next, RFK tweeting about circumcision risks while infants like Sa’Niya fade into the footnotes?
Footnote 1: Narcissistic Abuse Defined
Narcissistic abuse, which has some characteristics in common with paraphilias, or perversions, such as sexual sadism, pedophilia and necrophilia, is a pervasive form of emotional and psychological manipulation inflicted by individuals with narcissistic personality traits. It can occur online and/or in the real world. It involves tactics such as love-bombing (intense flattery followed by withdrawal), devaluation (qualities once praised are mocked, criticized or dismissed to erode self-worth, often using subtle put downs, backhanded compliments or silent treatments or 'ghosting'), narcissistic discard (abrupt withdrawal or cold detachment inwhich warmth, affection and attention disappear overnight after the narcissistic individual loses interest and 'ghosts' the victim, acting as if they never mattered; the narcissistic individual throws away the person they once idealized, showing how transactional and conditional their attachment truly was) and gaslighting and projection (denying hurtful actions or accusing victims of the very behaviors they're displaying, making victims doubt their reality).
In narcissistic abuse, there are often acts of kindness but these are manipulative and are alternated with abuse.
These cycles create confusion, isolation, and dependency.
A key mechanism is trauma bonding (also termed trauma-coerced attachment), where intermittent abuse is interspersed with affection, forging a powerful emotional attachment that traps victims despite the harm.
This phenomenon was first detailed by Dutton & Painter (1981) in their seminal paper on traumatic bonding in abusive relationships.
The devastating effects on victims of predators like Kathleen include:
• PTSD-like symptoms: Flashbacks, hypervigilance, nightmares.
• Anxiety & depression: Chronic self-doubt, suicidal ideation.
• Loss of identity: Eroded self-esteeminability to trust others or self.
• Physical health decline: Insomnia, gastrointestinal issues, weakened immunity.
• Interpersonal fallout: Difficulty forming healthy relationships post-abuse.
Seek help.
You sound psychotic.
Yeah, this came right out of left field.
Living rent free in someone’s head, apparently.
That was her objective. There's a strong cognitive sense of injustice but without the affective anger I had earlier. The whole time I was in conflict with you she was telling me daily how much she loved me and "liking" my comments that were critical of you. You are welcome to her. I don't want her. I refused to take her back. Just be warned, when you are dealing with a very severely personality disordered individual the abuse pattern will repeat. Notwithstanding our past conflicts, for which I take this opportunity to apologize, sincerely, I actually do not wish you any harm and she will harm you, guaranteed. She has been grooming you. She is a highly skilled con artist but she believes she is "superior" to her victims and " entitled" to treat them cruelly and in the end you will just be another victim to her.
When, on what subjects were you and I in conflict? Your name does not ring a bell and I have had but little dealings with the woman you name. For me, this is coming out of a clear blue sky above left field.
So it is happening.
You have broken dirt, metaphorically speaking.
The kid and Minecraft. I know for sure if Minecraft had been around back, when I was a kid, my mom would have had the perfect incentive for me to complete all sorts of chores. It would have made her "weed craft" that much easier to enact upon me.
Does the Kid play Minecraft alone, or with online friends?
i know how your kid feels to a degree. The days when the internet goes down are painful, that much more if it is power. It shows me how dependent I am on those things when they are missing. And for a moment, I feel gratitude for all that I do have that I tend to take for granted.
I do not play computer games for a reason. I learned how addictive they can be after spending three days straight of Christmas leave at a friend’s house in Yokosuka playing Sim City without a break. Stopped cold turkey. 11 year olds do not have level of will power. Few adults do, it seems.
The preexwife is unable to use as your mother would have as she always caves and gives in to The Kid’s demands. Her pitiful attempts to use it in such a manner as your mother would just create hours long fights that end in her consenting to The Kid’s demands.
I know The Kid has played with friends online, that is how they first learned of it, playing it at a friend’s house. But I do not know if they still are or if they always are or not. All I know of the incessant fights over the game and screen time on the idiot phone.
The biggest problem with video games is it's more a consumer activity and there is the dependency on it to manage downtime.
November 7th? Unfortunately, I have to work. Honey Badger Moving Services is fully booked that day. Perhaps I can help out in other ways. If you do a partial move, I can help another day.
Wasn’t really planning on the big and heavy stuff that day. Most of the day will be spent cleaning and moving drawers over so that the furniture they belong in will easier to handle. How about the 8th and/or the 9th?
Kinda rough. I work just about every day so a day off is rare. Have you considered a moving company?
Talked with the preexwife today. It will be a drawn out moving process. If you are willing and able, I can wait a while for our times off to align. If not, I’ll have to hire a moving company. Probably take longer for a moving company as I doubt I can get one that is available with less than a month or longer lead time. But, I haven’t looked into it.
I will see what I can do. The 23rd is a holiday. I have work but I will see if I can get out of it. In regard to moving companies, I remember I hired a small truck. The truck included the mover and the driver (same person). I had to ride with him between the two places (one trip). It was fun. We spent the whole drive talking about fish. If I recall, it was cheap and quick to get a truck.
Don’t think I’ll survive until then. The search for a moving companies commences shortly. Still up for burgers?
I am always up for burgers, especially for those of the Foxy Honey Persuasion.
You are definitely well out of it all. !00% you cannot fix or improve the situation at home by remaining there any longer and although it might seem counterintuitive to distance yourself, you actually have a better chance of making a positive difference by doing so. It will of course depend on how much you get to actually see the kids after you move out and the various circumstances but don't make any negative assumptions for now until you see how things play out.
Congrats on your escape and moving onto the next (and better) chapter in your life. ❤️