All these factors are ones of consideration. A lot of them are "what if's" and "do they understand what they are asking?" And there is some wish fulfillment mixed in with it. A Whole medley of "Does she understand what will happen?" The fact is no one knows.
I am very slow to blame everything Covid because that's ironically what the other side does. Everything is about Covid. Feel irritable? It's Covid. Do you have brain fog? Covid. But I do invoke the injection as soon as someone asserts it is Covid.
"But this symptom existed before the shot." They reply, and this is part of my point.
"The symptoms also existed before Covid."
I have a four-part sentence I often repeat and I should have it programmed with a hotkey. There are at least four probable sources of symptoms. Previous chronic conditions, emergent chronic conditions, getting an experimental injection, and wearing a bacteria factory on your face.
Looking at that, I could knock out the term "chronic" as they could be temporal conditions as well as chronic. I have to acknowledge there are plenty of people who got the experimental injection who appear to be fine and might actually be fine. The reason being is that as universal as the shot is, the manufacturing and deployment is not as identical as one may think it might be. Similar to how Coca Cola is manufactured and tastes in multiple parts of the world. Individual mileage may vary.
Most of the Covid Cautious people I talk to do not have that nuance. They believe that Covid is like a cat hiding in all your organs ripping them apart. Any day now you will be dead. Heck...people who didn't adhere to any of the restrictions, they will be gathered around the bare-faced plague-spreaders deathbed at age 90 in thirty years and say "See, I told him that Covid would eventually get him."
As far as the fallout of your divorce. I have seen radical differences in how people handle it. No doubt it will be bad on the kids. But it's hard to quantify how bad because no matter what choice you make, you don't have the luxury of skipping into alternative universes to check on your other decisions.
There are platitudes. Better to have kids in a broken marriage than a loveless marriage. Better for the kids if the parents can remain cordial until they graduate from high school. I could go on with whatever wisdom there is out there, some of it contradictory. No matter what choice you make, there will be judgment. In some ways, you can embrace the racism of foreigners.
For me it comes down to "Do I really want to fight to stay where I am not wanted?"
True, there is no way to actually know what the future holds. That is why the study of history is so important. Knowledge of history allows us to guess educationally what is likely to happen. My wife did not understand that working less so that I could help with the newborn as she requested would mean a severe pay cut. As shocking of a surprise as that was, after her learning that lesson the hard way, I was absolutely gobsmacked that she did not understand the reverse was also true; that earning more money as she requested would mean more time away from the house. Of course these are not the only two instances, but these are huge, IMO. She also has long demonstrated downplaying my contributions. Working as late as she does, her sleep will be in even shorter supply if she has to was the dishes from dinner after finishing her after dinner work from home session. I know the time it takes to do what I do, she does not even know all that I do. I can say with as much certainty as one can about any future event that she is not mentally, physically, emotionally nor chronologically prepared for life as a single mother.
The biggest thing for me is that things have played out almost exactly as I foresaw. I knew that the longer working from home lasted, the harder it would be to revert back to commuting to work. We adapt to new situations, but this adaptation is not without cost. After some point, we find we have grown into our situation and recoil at the thought of the effort it will take to change back. That is precisely what I witnessed with my wife. She was horribly upset at having to work from home day after day after day. She was pissed off that I was still able to go in to school a day or two a week once classes finally started, months late. This did not prevent her from also being angry at my for always being home, which, obviously I was not, and ignoring the fact that it being even more rare for me to be alone these past 5 years was likely to also be frustrating for me. What percentage of US government employees are still “working” remotely? Ain’t small. To add depth to this discussion, I maintained my strong desire to get back in the classroom until that time came. I was not expecting to see a class full of teens and early 20 students wearing masks.
I do not blame covid but I believe I can blame the cure that was worse than the disease. Working remotely completely erased the already blurry line between work time and family time in Japan. Chronically excessive work hours have known adverse effects. I have both witnessed these and experienced them myself.
When it comes to the clot shot, your argument really holds water. But even here, blaming it as I do for her salivary gland tumor and the mass I have at my own injection site I am comfortable attributing to the clot shot. So too the three I know who died unexpectedly. It also adds consistency to their argument that covid made all this necessary.
While I cannot blame the clot shot on the recent passing of another friend at the age of 72, I do blame the covid madness for preventing us meeting the last 5 years of his life.
As far as fighting to stay where I am not wanted goes; where is a broke, jobless, homeless 55 year old wanted? At present, I am trying to increase my income as I look for the cheapest accommodations I can find.
I have nothing to add regarding solutions to your situation, but i will remind you to recall that peaceful feeling you referenced when you feel low, and bolster your self confidence.
You will prevail, although exactly what happens is unclear at present.
My previous standing order to her still stands; she cannot die before I do. If she does before we divorce, the US gets a shot at her assets as the pass on to me and again when I leave this life and pass them on to our kids.
All valid concerns, but all moot unless you can increase your income to the point that you would continue to qualify for a residence/work visa after the divorce. I would focus on determining whether that will be possible, and plan accordingly.
All these factors are ones of consideration. A lot of them are "what if's" and "do they understand what they are asking?" And there is some wish fulfillment mixed in with it. A Whole medley of "Does she understand what will happen?" The fact is no one knows.
I am very slow to blame everything Covid because that's ironically what the other side does. Everything is about Covid. Feel irritable? It's Covid. Do you have brain fog? Covid. But I do invoke the injection as soon as someone asserts it is Covid.
"But this symptom existed before the shot." They reply, and this is part of my point.
"The symptoms also existed before Covid."
I have a four-part sentence I often repeat and I should have it programmed with a hotkey. There are at least four probable sources of symptoms. Previous chronic conditions, emergent chronic conditions, getting an experimental injection, and wearing a bacteria factory on your face.
Looking at that, I could knock out the term "chronic" as they could be temporal conditions as well as chronic. I have to acknowledge there are plenty of people who got the experimental injection who appear to be fine and might actually be fine. The reason being is that as universal as the shot is, the manufacturing and deployment is not as identical as one may think it might be. Similar to how Coca Cola is manufactured and tastes in multiple parts of the world. Individual mileage may vary.
Most of the Covid Cautious people I talk to do not have that nuance. They believe that Covid is like a cat hiding in all your organs ripping them apart. Any day now you will be dead. Heck...people who didn't adhere to any of the restrictions, they will be gathered around the bare-faced plague-spreaders deathbed at age 90 in thirty years and say "See, I told him that Covid would eventually get him."
As far as the fallout of your divorce. I have seen radical differences in how people handle it. No doubt it will be bad on the kids. But it's hard to quantify how bad because no matter what choice you make, you don't have the luxury of skipping into alternative universes to check on your other decisions.
There are platitudes. Better to have kids in a broken marriage than a loveless marriage. Better for the kids if the parents can remain cordial until they graduate from high school. I could go on with whatever wisdom there is out there, some of it contradictory. No matter what choice you make, there will be judgment. In some ways, you can embrace the racism of foreigners.
For me it comes down to "Do I really want to fight to stay where I am not wanted?"
True, there is no way to actually know what the future holds. That is why the study of history is so important. Knowledge of history allows us to guess educationally what is likely to happen. My wife did not understand that working less so that I could help with the newborn as she requested would mean a severe pay cut. As shocking of a surprise as that was, after her learning that lesson the hard way, I was absolutely gobsmacked that she did not understand the reverse was also true; that earning more money as she requested would mean more time away from the house. Of course these are not the only two instances, but these are huge, IMO. She also has long demonstrated downplaying my contributions. Working as late as she does, her sleep will be in even shorter supply if she has to was the dishes from dinner after finishing her after dinner work from home session. I know the time it takes to do what I do, she does not even know all that I do. I can say with as much certainty as one can about any future event that she is not mentally, physically, emotionally nor chronologically prepared for life as a single mother.
The biggest thing for me is that things have played out almost exactly as I foresaw. I knew that the longer working from home lasted, the harder it would be to revert back to commuting to work. We adapt to new situations, but this adaptation is not without cost. After some point, we find we have grown into our situation and recoil at the thought of the effort it will take to change back. That is precisely what I witnessed with my wife. She was horribly upset at having to work from home day after day after day. She was pissed off that I was still able to go in to school a day or two a week once classes finally started, months late. This did not prevent her from also being angry at my for always being home, which, obviously I was not, and ignoring the fact that it being even more rare for me to be alone these past 5 years was likely to also be frustrating for me. What percentage of US government employees are still “working” remotely? Ain’t small. To add depth to this discussion, I maintained my strong desire to get back in the classroom until that time came. I was not expecting to see a class full of teens and early 20 students wearing masks.
I do not blame covid but I believe I can blame the cure that was worse than the disease. Working remotely completely erased the already blurry line between work time and family time in Japan. Chronically excessive work hours have known adverse effects. I have both witnessed these and experienced them myself.
When it comes to the clot shot, your argument really holds water. But even here, blaming it as I do for her salivary gland tumor and the mass I have at my own injection site I am comfortable attributing to the clot shot. So too the three I know who died unexpectedly. It also adds consistency to their argument that covid made all this necessary.
While I cannot blame the clot shot on the recent passing of another friend at the age of 72, I do blame the covid madness for preventing us meeting the last 5 years of his life.
As far as fighting to stay where I am not wanted goes; where is a broke, jobless, homeless 55 year old wanted? At present, I am trying to increase my income as I look for the cheapest accommodations I can find.
I have nothing to add regarding solutions to your situation, but i will remind you to recall that peaceful feeling you referenced when you feel low, and bolster your self confidence.
You will prevail, although exactly what happens is unclear at present.
Strength, friend!! 🙏
On a related topic (your wife having taken so many jabs), here's the latest in Japan re vaccine negative effectiveness from Raphael Lataster, PhD:
https://okaythennews.substack.com/p/covid-19-vaccine-negative-effectiveness-e78
Does your wife have a Last Will? (cough, cough)
My previous standing order to her still stands; she cannot die before I do. If she does before we divorce, the US gets a shot at her assets as the pass on to me and again when I leave this life and pass them on to our kids.
All valid concerns, but all moot unless you can increase your income to the point that you would continue to qualify for a residence/work visa after the divorce. I would focus on determining whether that will be possible, and plan accordingly.
I have a permanent resident visa, so that is not an issue. Being able to pay for an apartment is though.